Ex-Partner Of Shadow of Intent Vocalist Ben Duerr Offers Statement On Abuse Allegations Against Him

Earlier this week, a woman who was in a relationship with Shadow of Intent vocalist Ben Duerr came forward with allegations of domestic abuse against the deathcore frontman.

In a series of now-deleted posts, Brittney Carroll shared footage of a heated exchange with Duerr, along with photographs of injuries she claimed resulted from a physical altercation between them. The accusations quickly gained traction online, sparking discussion within the heavy music community.

In a new statement issued to Lambgoat, Carroll has since clarified aspects of the allegations while describing her relationship with Duerr as “toxic.” She also confirmed that she recently ended their relationship and provided additional details regarding their time together.

Her full statement reads as follows:

“Most of you don’t know me, but I owe everyone an explanation for the video and pictures I posted. Ben and I have been struggling in a toxic relationship for a long time. Essentially we’re just not compatible. I love him and I don’t think that will ever go away. He’s the best dad I could ask for for Max. Unfortunately though, I was not treated well when I was pregnant with Max.

I’m not going to go into that because it’s mental abuse and no one understands or cares about shit like that. And I’ll be real- we were emotionally abusing each other. Even if we didn’t know it at the time. Because that’s what happens in toxic relationships.
It’s almost never just one person who is the problem. Just comes down to us not being compatible, as I said.

The only time Ben ever intentionally physically hurt me was when he threw me across the floor when I thought I was pregnant. The arm bruises came from him holding my arms and the skids on my knees were obviously from skidding across the carpet. Ben‘s not very good with personal space and we would end up both getting hurt when I was trying to get away from him. That’s why I would usually just lock myself in the bathroom.

When I was pregnant I recorded him because it was the only way I could protect myself and Max. Stress obviously isn’t good for a baby and this is my issue with Ben. He just didn’t take me being pregnant seriously. So why is this all coming up now? Well I just found out I’m pregnant again and I am absolutely unwilling to repeat that cycle.

These babies deserve better. So I foolishly went to the Internet thinking that people would just tell him you can’t do that and he would stop (because unfortunately none of his “friends” who I originally went to with this information were willing to tell him that it wasn’t okay. No one wants to tell Ben shit because fuck- he’s Ben)

I didn’t want to leave him. I just wanted us to finally figure shit out. Now I see that I was stupid for thinking like that. No one could have saved our relationship. And that’s all it is. Just a shitty ass ending to almost 10 years of trying. So currently while yes I do have some support- most people are just shitting all over me and it’s disgusting. This is the last I will say regarding this situation. I just want to move on and try to heal.”

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