AGAINST ME!’s Laura Jane Grace Addresses Abuse Allegations as Public Fallout with Wife Paris Campbell Grace Intensifies

The highly public fallout between Laura Jane Grace of Against Me! and her wife Paris Campbell Grace continues to escalate, with both parties sharing lengthy, conflicting accounts of their relationship’s breakdown—one that has now led to Grace canceling all live appearances for the remainder of 2025.

The situation began a week ago when Paris Campbell Grace publicly accused Laura Jane Grace of abuse via social media. In her original posts, Paris stated her intent to have Laura vacate their shared home so that she and their daughter could return to a safe environment. Shortly after, she confirmed that Laura had left, writing on Threads:

“My wife has left the house, and I’m bringing my daughter home tomorrow to a safe environment. My only purpose in coming forward was to ensure our safety, so from this point forward, until I go through proper legal channels, I will no longer speak about the situation with my wife. When the time comes, I absolutely will share my experience as I see fit. I thank everyone who has shown me compassion. You’ve given me strength I thought was killed. ❤️”

Laura Jane Grace responded on Instagram with an admission of past mistakes and acknowledgment of a toxic relationship dynamic. In the caption of her post, she wrote:

“I would like to acknowledge my fault here and take responsibility for my mistakes. Anyone who has been paying attention can see clear as day that this has been a toxic, codependent relationship from the start. It was reckless of me to get married so quickly and I made a lot of poor decisions where I absolutely should have known better. My poor decisions have impacted my kid, my band and my community. I hold myself accountable for it and sincerely apologize.”

Alongside her statement, Grace shared a longer testimony from an unnamed touring member of her band, Laura Jane Grace and the Trauma Tropes, a project that both she and Paris were part of. That band had just released its debut album the same day the allegations first surfaced.

The individual, later identified by Paris as Tiff Hannay of The Rodeo Boys, alleged firsthand experiences of manipulation and emotional abuse from Paris during their time touring together. The post describes multiple incidents in which Paris allegedly isolated other tour members, made claims of abuse without evidence, attempted to make Grace jealous by flirting with others on tour, and fabricated financial and emotional narratives.

Among the claims, Tiff stated:

“Paris would corner bandmates, trauma dump personal grievances about Laura, and claim she had evidence of abuse—yet never shared any of it. She would accuse Laura of financial abandonment, but everyone on tour, including Laura, was paid equally by a third-party management company. Paris often escalated situations, refused to give Laura space during arguments, and portrayed herself as a victim any time Laura reacted. What Paris is doing is a form of abuse.”

The post also asserts that Grace had been trying to leave the relationship for over six months but was allegedly manipulated into staying due to their shared band responsibilities and the public nature of their marriage.

Paris briefly responded on Threads, stating:

“So much for a ‘mutual’ gag order, I guess. I won’t be responding to any of this. Everything I said is true. All in the dark always sees the light, say whatever you want about me. I’m finally free.”

She later elaborated in a Facebook post, confirming Tiff Hannay as the author of the statement and defending her actions:

“This is truly the last I will ever speak of this. Because at this point, engaging with this is only allowing someone who caused me a lot of pain to have power over me. I loved, and still do… my wife. She did not treat me well. The morning I locked myself in my office… my wife scared the hell out of me. We got into a verbal argument that led to me threatening to leave her, which blew her up further. Things got scary. That’s when I locked myself in and started sending texts and eventually cried out publicly. I filed for divorce several days ago.”

Paris also accused Laura of violating what was supposed to be a developing mutual non-disparagement agreement, claiming Laura posted “19 screenshots about me” the same day the gag order was being negotiated.

As the public dispute continued to unfold, Laura Jane Grace announced her withdrawal from all remaining tour dates in 2025. She had been performing with Laura Jane Grace and the Trauma Tropes as part of Murder By Death’s farewell tour before stepping away from the remaining shows.

In a follow-up statement posted to social media, Grace wrote:

“Unfortunately it has become apparent to me that at this time continuing ahead with touring is neither realistic nor in good taste. I’ll be taking the rest of the year off from the road to work on myself and get my life in order.

I would like to sincerely apologize to @murderbydeath for bringing such a foul energy around their farewell tour dates they invited me to be a part of.

I would like to sincerely apologize to @trapperschoepp and @teamnonexistent for fuckin up the August run and I hope to someday have the chance to share the stage together.

I would like to apologize to all the venues and promoters who had put in work setting up the shows and promoting the dates. I hope I get the chance to demonstrate in the future that this is not who I am or what I’m about.

There will be information about ticket refunds to follow shortly for anyone who was holding.
I’d like to apologize to @blackarm_666, @thatpunkquilter, Mikey Erg, and @kingmke.
It has been absolutely thrilling playing together and touring together and y’all don’t deserve drama like this in your lives. You all are one hell of a rhythm section and one hell of a crew. Thank you and I’m sorry.

And finally, I’d like to apologize to @polyvinylrecords for my personal life royally fuckin up this album release.”

Grace concluded with a note of optimism for the music itself:

“I still think it’s a really good record and that people should give it a listen. Hope to see everyone back out there on the road in 2026.”

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